Want to Make Your World a Happier Place? 4 Ways to Empower Yourself Now!

‘I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their filters.’

The world is meaningless until YOU give it a meaning! The truth is, no two people look at the world the same, this means that YOU interpret every experience you have the way you choose to. Therefore no one is ever right or wrong, we all just look at things differently. You will never, ever, see me get into an argument to prove that I am right because my way is NOT the only way!

Here are four tips that you can use to start empowering YOUR life now:

1. Notice Your Behavior

If you notice yourself getting frustrated at others because in your mind they are doing something wrong, take a deep breath and remember that your way is not the only way. You could even learn something from them.

As we grow up, we create our own beliefs, values, opinions, and stories that set us up for the way in which we interpret the world. These are what I call Filters. We use these filters to give meaning to our world. You may have heard the saying ‘when you change your perspective you will change your life.’ When your limited ego is strong you may see the negative in every situation, you look in the mirror and hate what you see, you create drama in your relationships, you feel anxious, and you start to see what’s not working in your life.

Without changing anything externally, when we look at our world through our healthy ego, we will start to see the beauty and positivity in every situation. When we look in the mirror, we will feel grateful for our bodies, and we will feel calm. We can start to appreciate our relationships and be thankful for everything that we have.

2. Practice Gratitude

Having a simple gratitude practice where you say or write down at least one thing you’re grateful for in your life each day can shift your perspective on any situation and lift your mood. There is so much in the world to be thankful for if we choose to look for it!

Find a friend for accountability and every morning message each other what you’re thankful for.

A quote that I live by is:

“Don’t take things personally or assume anything until you get the facts!”

We live in a world where there are too many miss-communications and unnecessary worry in our lives, so being able to eliminate some of this stress can help you create a happier life for yourself and those around you.

3. Communicate Effectively

Learning how to communicate effectively by repeating back to the person what you heard and vice versa can clear up any miss interpretation, and you can both be fully heard and understood.

Instead of always trying to change what’s going on around you, begin to focus on what’s going on within because that is where the power is.

The common denominator in your life and all of your relationships is you, so if you want anything to change you first must go within and make a shift.

4. Take Full Responsibility For Your Life

You can change ANY situation by merely changing the way you look at it. When you stop blaming everyone else and take full responsibility for your life, you have ultimate power for how you feel, the experiences you have and how you show up in the world.

Remember no one can ever make you feel anything because your feelings are yours! So next time you get triggered by someone or angry at the other person, look into your own eyes, process your own stuff, change the meaning you’re giving the situation and then respond with LOVE.

It’s never about them darling, it’s ALWAYS about YOU (and this is the most powerful tool you can have!)

‘When we change the way we look at things the things we look at change.’


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Frequently Asked Questions

How do "filters" affect my relationships?

Filters are the <a href="https://femmecoach.com/relationships-and-dating/spiritual-growth-in-relationships-should-my-partner-be-on-the-same-page/" title="Spiritual Growth in Relationships – Should My Partner Be on the Same Page?" data-wpil-monitor-id="1691">beliefs and values</a> we grew up with. They act like sunglasses - coloring everything we see. In relationships, this means we might interpret a partner's silence as anger because of our past, when they might just be tired. Recognizing your filters helps you see the truth rather than your projection.

What is the best way to start a gratitude practice?

Start small, babe! You don't need a fancy journal. Just find one thing every morning that makes you smile and write it down or text it to a friend. The key is consistency. Over time, it retrains your brain to scan the world for the positive.

How can I stop taking things personally?

Remember that people's reactions are usually about their own internal world, not you. When you realize that everyone is operating from their own "filters" and struggles, it becomes easier to detach and respond with love rather than defensiveness.


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Serena Moonlight

Serena Moonlight is a certified soul coach and intuitive healer who specializes in helping women break free from limiting beliefs and embrace their authentic selves. After her own profound spiritual awakening in her late twenties, Serena dedicated her life to guiding other women through their transformational journeys. She combines ancient wisdom traditions with modern psychology to create powerful healing experiences. Her compassionate approach has helped thousands of women cultivate deeper self-love, trust their intuition, and step into their personal power. Serena is also a published author and hosts the popular podcast 'Sacred Self.'

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