3 Ways to Bust Through Negative Patterns

Negative patterns. We all have them, let’s be honest, you. We are human after all, but sometimes it might feel like there’s no way beyond them, right?

Almost like you were born with these ways of operating and you’re stuck with them… for good. Well, I’ve learned that not only is there a way out, but the solution is already inside of you, lovely. I’m just stopping by to help you bring it out into the daylight! Negative patterns come in all shapes and sizes. Whether it’s a frustrating dating pattern, a negative thinking loop, spending habits, or simply being caught up in negativity, these are all things that can be overcome with a little courage.

For me personally? Oh, you, I used to date men who brought only crumbs to the table. It wasn’t until I finally realized that I kept allowing it – and therefore I kept attracting the same story – that I could finally bust through it. It felt like the same man kept showing up in my life, he just had a different face. The universe was trying to teach me the same lesson each time, but I never let myself learn it.

Have you ever felt like you’re dating the same person in a different body? Let’s talk about it in the comments, you. You are so not alone in this!

I eventually put my foot down, but it took me a couple of decades to realize this was my pattern. Life wasn’t trying to serve me unfulfilling relationships on a platter. Instead, it was trying to show me that I held the keys to the car the entire time. By jumping with two feet into the same situation over and over, I was telling the universe that I was totally cool with it. I was allowing it, and by doing so I was saying, “yes, more please.”

Sometimes it’s hard to admit that we are in the driver’s seat of our own lives, but we eventually need to decide what we are willing to accept… even from ourselves. When we aren’t aware of our own power to change, we can get caught in the idea that maybe this is just how things are supposed to be. Trust me, it’s not. But maybe, just maybe, it’s one of your greatest lessons. If you can see it that way, life will not only become more fulfilling, you will become the happiest version of yourself. Guaranteed. Now let’s get to work, ladies!

3 Powerful Ways to Break Your Negative Patterns

Ready to finally say goodbye to what’s been holding you back? Here’s how we’re going to do it, together.

1. Become Radically Aware of the Pattern

Okay, lovely, we’re not about living in the past, but we do need to take a quick glance back. How long has this pattern been lingering? The first step is to accept full responsibility by deciding that today is the day your fed up and no longer willing to deal with this behavior. Can you see how you have kept allowing it to grow in various parts of your life? This isn’t about blame- it’s about reclaiming your power! Acknowledge it, own it, and get ready to let it go.

2. Make Your Happiness a Non-Negotiable Priority!

Trimming the fat in any area of your life might feel uncomfortable at first, but know that it will make you a much happier human. It’s kinda like ripping off a band-aid. You just have to go for it, otherwise, it will be stuck with you forever. Releasing your ninja grip on something you’ve been clinging to for so long can feel chaotic. You will resist at first. You might even freak out a little bit. And then? Then you will realize this needed to happen a long, long time ago. Your joy is worth the temporary discomfort, you.

3. Commit to Your New Reality!

This is where the magic happens. Be empowered to take the reins of your life for good. When we’re used to doing things or thinking the same way for a long time, old patterns can try to creep back in. When they do, you simply have to remind yourself that you are new and improved. You are not the person you were before. You are a woman who is committed to her growth, her happiness, and her peace. Period.

So, are you ready to bust through your negative patterns for good? The most powerful thing we can ever realize is that our life is truly in our hands. Anything is surmountable if we make the effort to break through what’s been holding us back. Your patterns aren’t your prison- they are your biggest catalyst for change!

Your Questions Answered: Breaking Negative Patterns

Why is it so hard to break a negative pattern?

Oh, you, it’s because these patterns are deeply ingrained habits, often linked to our comfort zone or subconscious beliefs we’ve held for years! It’s not about being weak, it’s about rewiring your brain. That takes real time and courage, you! Be patient with yourself.

What’s the very first step to identifying my negative patterns?

The first step is gentle self-observation, without any judgment. Start journaling or just paying closer attention to when you feel stuck, frustrated, or have that ‘here we go again’ feeling. That feeling is a huge clue that a pattern is at play!

Can I really change a pattern I’ve had my whole life?

One hundred percent, yes! Your past does not define your future, lovely. With awareness and consistent, loving effort, you can create new, empowering pathways for yourself. You hold all the power to change your story, starting right now.

We Want to Hear From You!

What’s one negative pattern you are committing to breaking today? Share your story in the comments below – your experience and strength might be exactly what another woman needs to read. Let’s support each other on this beautiful journey!