How to Feel Worthy of Love and a Romantic Relationship
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I used to honestly believe that I would never feel worthy of love and a romantic relationship. My career was poppin’ off, but my dating life? A total hot mess. I thought that deep, soul-shaking love was only for “lucky” people and that I just wasn’t one of them. I had this nasty pattern of dating men who were completely wrong for me. They were emotionally unavailable, detached, and totally non-committal.
Does that sound familiar, babe? As you can imagine, this left me feeling extremely lonely for most of my dating life. I remember so many nights coming home and crying, wondering why this kept happening to me. There were countless times I stood in the mirror wiping my tears asking, “What’s wrong with me?”
I felt depressed and totally fell into victim mode. Until one day, I woke up and decided I was completely fed up with how I felt. It was time to make a massive change.
I was ready to do something about it, so I decided to take inspired action. I got my hands on every self-help book I could find, which lead me down a path of deep inner and outer transformation. It finally clicked that I was my own solution to my problem. I was focusing so hard on the lack of love in my life, that I wasn’t bothering to love myself. By participating in the same kind of relationships over and over, I was sending out a signal to the Universe that said, “More of this please!”
You see ladies, what we accept is what we will continue to receive.
It was time for me to start saying no to what didn’t serve me, and yes to self-love and respect. Love is absolutely possible for each of us. In fact, it’s our birthright. If you’re reading this, gorgeous, great love is actually not only possible for you; it’s inevitable. You have to find belief in that, though, first in order for it to come about. Our beliefs can create positive momentum, and it all begins with making a few shifts.
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3. Become love in every area of your life
Go love your family, your friends, your dog, your co-worker, etc., and while you’re at it give it out generously and as often as possible. Literally become love in all areas of your life. Leave yourself love notes on your bathroom mirror, tell a friend how much you care about them, smile at a stranger. What you send out comes around back to you, and by doing this you will begin to become a magnet for love in all areas of your life.
4. Visualize being in a loving relationship
Take a few moments, close your eyes, and get super present. Set a timer for 10 minutes. Imagine what it would feel like to have the relationship of your dreams. What are some loving things you could imagine your ideal partner saying to you? How would you react to them? What’s the expression on your face?
How do they look at you? What kind of things do you do together? Do they interact well with your friends and family? Get as detailed as you possibly can. You will know this practice has done the trick when you start feeling excitement and anticipation! Manifestation works best when you can feel the emotion of it already happening.
5. Create a mantra and post it somewhere you can see it regularly
Affirmations are powerful tools to rewire our brains. You could write something like:
“I’m a magnet for love everywhere I go. I freely give and receive love now!”
It’s not so much the words, but the energy and emotion behind them that make mantras effective. Really stir up some amazing feelings each time you recite it!
Romantic love is absolutely possible for you, my lovely friend. Life has simply been waiting for you to let go of the limiting beliefs holding you back from allowing it into your life. You are worthy of experiencing love no matter how many times your heart has been broken or you’ve been let down. Your belief will make it possible.
The more you take inspired action steps every single day to change your story, the quicker you will kick your fears to the curb! You got this.
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Which of these 5 steps resonates with you the most right now? Drop a comment below and let us know which action step you’re committing to this week. We love hearing from our community of gorgeous, empowering women!
Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel like I'm not worthy of love?
Feeling unworthy often stems from past experiences, childhood conditioning, or previous heartbreaks that lead to limiting beliefs. When we subconsciously believe we aren't "enough," we tend to attract partners who validate that fear. Recognizing this pattern is the first huge step toward healing it!
How can I stop attracting emotionally unavailable men?
To stop attracting unavailable partners, you have to become available to yourself first. This means setting boundaries, respecting your own needs, and refusing to settle for crumbs. When you raise your vibration and self-worth, you naturally stop resonating with people who can't meet you at that level.
Do affirmations actually work for finding love?
Yes, absolutely! Mantras and affirmations help rewire your neural pathways. However, the secret sauce is feeling the emotion while you say them. It's not just about the words; it's about shifting your energy to match the frequency of the love you want to call in.
Bridgitte Naple:
It’s so easy for us to feel victim and wonder what is wrong with us.
Love this post and the 5 tips, I already do some of these & will continue to do more. ?
Bridgitte xx