5 Practical AF Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence
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The Art of Becoming Your Own Hero
If you want to be a powerful, strong woman radiating with vibes of confidence, you need to master the art of self-empowerment! Listen beautiful soul, self-empowerment is all about empowering yourself, believing in your own magic, and trusting your gut. It means taking full control of your life – picking ourselves up after a failure or a nasty rejection and saying, “I got this.”
It is all about the SELF. We have to know deep down that we are the ones who have to pick ourselves up, we have to EMPOWER ourselves. You might be asking, why is it our responsibility? Well dear one, the way we treat ourselves reflects exactly how others treat us.
Think about it – if we don’t believe in ourselves, why should anyone else? If we dont build self-respect, other people wont respect us either. It’s a mirror game, lovely. If we don’t trust ourselves, we cant trust others deeply, and they won’t find us trustworthy. If we don’t decide to pick ourselves up, even an army of people trying to “save us” wont be able to help!
Let’s get real for a sec: Have you ever felt like you were just waiting for someone to come save you? I’d love to know your experience. Drop a comment below and let’s support each other!
Stop Waiting for External Validation
Unfortunately, us ladies often rely on other people and external validation to feel good. We are waiting for that one perfect partner to fall in love with us and finally give us the power and confidence we are craving. We struggle to “achieve” things, hustle to make money, or become “someone” just to prove to the world that we matter.
But here is the truth: We have the power to pick ourselves up. We have the power to empower ourselves. We just tend to forget it! When we aren’t aware of our own magic and lack self-worth, we desperately look for validation outside. This gets us into a vicious cycle of self-pity and feeling powerless.
A woman with low self-worth craves love to prove she is worthy. But becuase we attract what we are, not what we want (as Dr. Wayne Dyer would wisely say), she often attracts a man who treats her with disrespect or acts like a total douchebag! Or, she might not attract guys at all because that low vibe pushes them away.
The same goes for money, dear one. If we don’t feel worthy, we can’t sustain success because people smell our fear. Money is just an exchange of value. If we don’t value ourselves, we will never feel like we have enough money. We chase success to prove our worth, when really, success flows from our worth.
As Gabrielle Bernstein says:
“Success is an inside job”
Our outside world is always a reflection of our internal condition. I coach women internationally, and I see these patterns everywhere. Recently, I gave workshops on self-empowerment in New Delhi, and it was such a pleasure seeing all those lovely women leaving the room feeling like absolute queens.
I felt a call deep within to spread this message further. I’ll be giving a motivational talk in the Netherlands soon, but I wanted to share the key points right here for my Femme Coach ladies (I love you ladies!).
5 Steps to Reclaim Your Power
These are the key takeaways from my workshops. Keep in mind these are just breadcrumbs – I usually work with clients for six months to truly embody this – but these steps are a great place to start!
1. Replace disempowering beliefs with empowering ones
A belief is just a thought you keep thinking. So, reflect on what’s going on in that beautiful head of yours. Are you too self-critical? Do you bash yourslef about how “stupid” you are?
STOP THINKING SELF BELITTLING THOUGHTS AND REPLACE THEM WITH EMPOWERING THOUGHTS.
Everything we think is an affirmation. If you catch yourself thinking something nasty about yourself, forgive yourself and immediately swap it for something empowering. You deserve that kindness, dear one.
2. Feed your mind with self-empowering food
What we focus on expands. You need to focus on positivity. Read self-growth books, watch inspiring YouTube videos, and listen to podcasts (are you listening to Talk, Listen, Change yet? You totally should!).
Follow accounts that lift you up. Start your day with a plan and a positive mindset (check out my guide on that here).
I suggest these books to kickstart your journey:
- “Lean In (Women, Work, and the Will To Lead)” by Sheryl Sandberg
- “How To Be A Bawse” by Lilly Singh
3. Practice self-compassion
We are usually so sweet to others. If a friend makes a mistake, we hug her and tell her it’s okay. But when we mess up? We become our own worst critics. We torture ourselves with judgment and self-pity.
That’s where self-compassion comes in, ladies! Imagine your best friend made your “mistake”. What would you tell her? You’d tell her to learn and move on, right? Do that for yourself. You are human, and humans make mistakes. It’s how we learn and grow.
4. Take your life back into your hands
You have the power to create the life of your dreams, but you have to feel worthy of it first. Remember, success is an inside job. All the strategy in the world wont help if you don’t do the inner work.
5. Invest in yourself
This is the most important step. How much you invest in yourself shows how much you value yourself. And I’m not just talking about money – though that counts – I’m talking about investing in your inner work.
Years ago, I was depressed, a college dropout, and single. I took a loan to go to a yoga retreat. It seemed crazy, but that investment in my spiritual growth paid off! I fell in love, traveled to Paris and India, got my degree, and turned my passion into a paycheck as a life coach!
A year ago, when I felt stuck financially, I knew it was a reflection of my inner state. I did the work to overcome my limiting beliefs, and suddenly my money story transformed. I started earning numbers I only dreamt of.
No matter how much you spend on shiny exteriors, if you don’t invest in the inside, you wont attract the good stuff.
You’ve always had the power and you still have it.
It is time to step out as the confident, worthy, amazing woman you truly are!
We Want to Hear From You!
We are building a tribe of strong, beautiful women here, and your voice matters so much. Share your story in the comments below – have you struggled with feeling worthy? What is one step you are going to take today to empower yourself?
Your experience might be the exact thing another woman needs to hear today. Let’s support each other, ladies!
Frequently Asked Questions
What is self-empowerment for women?
Self-empowerment is the beautiful process of taking control of your own life, building rock-solid self-confidence, and trusting your own intuition. It involves replacing those nasty negative beliefs with empowering ones and understanding that your worth comes from within, not from external validation.
How does self-worth affect relationships?
We attract what we are, babe. If a woman has low self-worth, she may attract partners who treat her poorly because deep down she doesn't believe she deserves better. Building self-respect is crucial for attracting the healthy, loving relationships you deserve.
Why is investing in yourself important?
Investing in yourself - whether through education, coaching, or self-care - sends a powerful signal to the universe that you value yourself. This internal sense of value often reflects outwardly in your career success and financial abundance.
