Exude Courage Not by Being Fearless, But By Confronting Inner-Monsters

Let’s Talk About That Anger, Lovely

Listen, radiant one. We have all been there. During those really dark times in our lives when we feel completely helpless and defeated, it is so easy-and honestly, completely natural-to express anger at “God” for not swooping in to rescue us. You might feel this anger in a deeply personal way, like feeling victimized by your family or coworkers. Or maybe, it’s a more detached, heavy anger at God’s supposed abandonment of the world itself.

I know it hurts. And I want you to know that your feelings are valid, sister.

The Questions We Are All Scared to Ask

You aren’t alone in these thoughts. These questions are so common among us ladies, even if we are afraid to whisper them out loud:

• “If there is a God, why doesn’t he save abused, starving, war-torn children?”
• “Why does he let his children rage and kill each other in war?”
• “Why has God abandoned me?”

Sound familiar? I bet they do.

But here is what you might not expect next. I am not going to gloss over these painful questions with those common, fluffy metaphysical answers that frankly, can feel a bit insulting when you’re hurting.

You know the ones I mean:

• “They have their own journey.”
• “You chose this path, sister.”
• “It’s just their karma.”

Or, the ever-popular guilt trip:

“God didn’t abandon you, you abandoned God.”

No. We aren’t doing that today. Because while those sentiments might reflect some higher, philosophical notions of personal responsibility, right now? Those explanations might just invalidate and spiritually bypass your deeper emotions. We are talking about anger, abandonment, rejection, and loneliness that desperately need to be flushed out, processed, and released first.

Besides, let’s be real-if you are struggling with deep primal emotions and your ego feels wounded, you might not be ready to have a high-level discussion on deeper philosophical concepts surrounding your eternal soul path. Instead, you are probably feeling a deep sense of impotence in the face of an unseen, monumental, peace-destroying monster that you are deathly afraid to fight.

We would love to hear how you handle these moments. Have you ever felt brushed off by “spiritual” advice when you were just trying to vent? Share your story in the comments below – your experience might help another woman feel less alone. Let’s support each other!

Validating Your Inner Angry Monster Will Eventually Bring Peace

Far beneath the surface, there may be deeply repressed, invalidated anger. It feels like overwhelming powerlessness and a loss of your voice-the voice that once was your will to fight and overcome injustice. Here, that invalidated emotion needs to be brought to the surface. It needs its voice back. It needs to be validated, expressed, and processed so you can take charge and fight for your life, radiant one.

Feelings of emotional invalidation often start way back with emotional abandonment by a caretaker. This is usually where our idea of “God” actually begins. The parent figure represents the God or Savior Archetype in our deep subconscious. Moving into adulthood, our internal framework of “God” is often a direct reflection of a dysfunctional abandoning parent.

When my kids had conflict and wanted me to fix it, I would tell them to come to an agreement to present for discussion instead of just pointing fingers and expecting me to be the judge and executioner. Then, when terms were negotiated and the anger cooled down, some sort of fair atonement would be reached.

As children, we are expected at some point to become adults and fight our own battles. Does that mean we are without the legacy of divine strength and nurture? No, certainly not.

This God/Goddess (insert whatever your version of your Higher Power is here, lovely) wants you to learn to fight your own fights.

There Is, However, an Advice Hotline

Picture this, sister. You are 35 years old and you receive a totally unjust review from an employer. What do you do? Do you write up a counter-statement outlining the points where your employer might have overlooked your hard work? Or, do you call your dad and have him come to your office and rip your employer to pieces in front of the staff?

A better alternative here might be calling on divine nurture in the form of phoning dad, who has 40 years of work experience, to ask for guidance. Taking his words combined with your knowledge of the situation helps you create the best line of resolution. See the difference?

For us to become spiritual adults, we can’t be immobilized by fear, do nothing, and expect God to rescue us every single time we get into a jam. That is enabling, crippling, and honestly, a temporary measure at best.

We do not grow in times of peace as much as we grow in times of challenge or battle.

We cannot, if we expect to grow, continually deflect growth responsibilities onto a rescuing supernatural being. Am I minimizing spiritual events where miracles happen and mountains are moved? Am I belittling the joy of a continual communion with a higher sense of divine love? Certainly not, darling.

I am shining a light on those times where divine intervention steps back in an act of divine-tough-love for our own growth and expansion. We’re not talking Fire & Brimstone tough love. We’re talking about, “I know you can do it, and I believe in you” tough love. Too often this crucial message is misinterpreted as, “God has abandoned me,” and the cycle of fear, self-pity, and victim mentality continues.

Courage is Not What You Think It Is

Many ladies believe they dont have enough courage to speak up for themselves or make right the injustice in their lives. They believe that in order to have courage they must be fearless – not so.

Courage is the act of doing what is necessary even though you are very afraid.

Take ownership of your fears in the battles of life; battles that are most certainly a reflection of your deep internal fears. Own those fears, look at them straight in the eye, and face your weakness. This is not easy or comfortable. However, once you have conquered and actually befriended that monster, you will never have to face that particular fear again.

You are stronger than you think, beautiful.