How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others on Social Media
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Here’s a tip: Stop comparing yourself to others, GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA, or at least the parts of it that make you feel inferior.
The people you follow should make you feel empowered and inspired. Social media can make you feel great if you follow the right people, dear one! Surround yourself and your daily life with uplifting souls.
You should never scroll down and question why your friend has a perfect brand new house, but you don’t. Or why the sister you grew up with seems to have the latest greatest tech gadget with the flashy watch and perfect outfits that never seem to repeat. Stop questioning everything!
That ‘perfect house’ might be over the couple’s budget which causes them to have financial struggles and nightly fights. Same with the sister who has everything – her credit debt could be astronomical, but you would never know that because they aren’t going to post about it!
Shift Your Focus Inward
Instead, shift your focus to your own life and the things you do have. So you don’t have a house, but you make it a point each year to travel to a place you have never been. So you don’t have the latest smartwatch, but it’s hard to keep track of time with all the fun things you have planned anyway. So your wardrobe has consisted of the same flip flops for the past 6 years, but you’d rather feel the sand between your toes.
If you are truly happy with who you are and happy with your relationships, then just live in that happiness.
This year, commit to focusing on you. Once you remove the negative influences in your life – for me it was Facebook – you find that you invest so much more in YOURSELF!
I left Facebook about 6 months ago, and in that 6 months I have re-discovered my love for reading. I realized that even though I love my friends, many of them brought me down. I realized my priorities are different than others and that is okay. I was able to get more focused on my passions and goals and how to align my life with them.
By removing the negativity, I have made more room for self-improvement. I have followed people who make me want to grow, and who inspire me to create my own path.
So what if on paper it seems like everyone else has it figured out? THEY’RE NOT YOU! Are you happy with your choices? If yes, then focus on that happiness. If no, then change something. But whatever you do, do it for you! Love yourself, love your partner, and live for that happiness.
Don’t live in the ‘whys’ from above. Live in the now and the future of your success and ways to let your inner beauty flourish. Remember, everyone has their own path. Just because you are hiking the Pacific Crest Trail, and all your friends are strolling on the beach, doesn’t make either path right or wrong.
Stop comparing yourself to others as it will only halt your growth and happiness.
Join the Conversation
We would love to hear your thoughts, beautiful soul! How do you handle social media envy? Drop a comment below and let’s create a safe space to discuss our real lives – messy parts and all.
Frequently Asked Questions
Why is comparing yourself to others so damaging?
Comparing yourself to others is damaging because you are usually comparing your internal struggles with someone else's external highlights. This creates a false sense of inferiority and can lead to social depression, anxiety, and a lack of gratitude for your own beautiful journey.
How can I stop being jealous of friends on social media?
To stop the jealousy, try curating your feed. Unfollow or mute accounts that make you feel "less than" and fill your timeline with people who inspire and empower you. Remember, social media is a highlight reel - it isn't the full picture of their reality.
Is it okay to take a break from social media?
Absolutely, babe! Taking a digital detox is one of the best things you can do for your mental health. It allows you to reconnect with your real-life passions, hobbies, and relationships without the constant noise of comparison.
