A Simple Thing You Can Do Daily to Build Better Relationships

Do any of the following sound familiar, beautiful soul?

• You spot a cute guy in line ahead of you at the coffee shop and completely shut down becuase you’re afraid to say hi.
• You wind up in an elevator with the woman who could literally flip the switch on your career, but you bury your head in your cell phone instead.
• You finally got the email hookup of the HR lady at the company of your dreams and you just don’t email her.

We have all been there, dear one. Whether you are looking to form stronger relationships in business or in your personal life, the key to creating and sustaining any kind of connection is anchoring yourself in a state of gratitude.

It can seem a bit simplistic to say “Just be grateful! Focus on all of the good things in your life and you’ll attract good things back to you,” but honestly? It is actually quite true.

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Think about the last time you were in a bad mood. Maybe you had a terrible day at work and got caught in a huge traffic jam on your way home, or you got in a fight with your boyfriend. Did you feel more open to others? Or did you feel more closed off and shut down?

Chances are, in these situations, you felt shut down and closed off to life. That’s because you were solely focused on what had gone wrong. When you focus on what’s wrong, you naturally close yourself off to others. I’m betting you were also not the most fun person to be around in that moment (we’ve all had those days, lovely!).

Shifting Your Vibe to Attract Connection

Now, I want you to think about a time when you were full of gratitude for your life. Maybe you had just fallen in love, gotten a huge promotion, or heard that a family member had beaten cancer. Did you feel more open to others then? Or did you feel closed off?

I’m betting you felt way more open – because whether you realized it consciously or not – you had shifted into a massive state of gratitude for the present moment. This happened because you had your sole focus on what had gone right. I bet you were also really easy and fun to be around.

When you’re in that state, you become more open, more lit up, more connected, more radiant and quite frankly, more attractive. Who wouldn’t want to connect and build a relationship with a person like that?

And when you’re in the gratitude state, don’t you naturally want to talk to the guy, spark the conversation in the elevator or email the HR lady? Yes, sister. Of course you do.

We want to hear from you! Share your story in the comments below – has a positive attitude ever opened a unexpected door for you? Your experience might help another woman today. Let’s support each other!

So how do we get in and maintain this state of gratitude when we’re walking through our busy lives? My go-to tool for gratitude is Pro EFT Tapping.

Tapping is a mind-body tool that connects both your head and your heart to help you change your state in any moment.

You literally use a light tapping sensation on specific points on your body (that correspond with acupuncture and accupressure points) to stimulate the energy in the body while saying very specific words and phrases related to what you’re working on. It sounds a little woo-woo, but it works wonders, ladies.

Here are the tapping points:

For the sake of this article, I’ve provided a “gratitude tapping script” to help you maintain and anchor in a feeling of gratitude. All you need to do is tap on each point about 5-7 times while saying each phrase out loud. Please note this particular script is solely intended to solidify the feeling of gratitude when you’re already in a state of feeling good.

Here are the abbreviations I use in the script:

• EB: Eyebrow Point
• OE: Outside of the Eye
• UE: Under the Eye
• UN: Under the Nose
• Chin: Chin Point
• CB: Collarbone Point
• UA: Under the Arm
• Liver: Liver Point
• Wrist: Wrist Point
• TH: Top of the Head

Let’s tap, beautiful!

EB: I am open and receptive
OE: The more I stay open, the more miracles I experience
UE: I follow the flow of my life
UN: I am grateful for all of my blessings
Chin: The big ones
CB: And the small ones
UA: I am open to meeting new people
Liver: Even when I’m nervous
Wrist: I am open to new opportunites
TH: Even when I least expect them

EB: The more I tap
OE: The easier it becomes to remain in a state of openness and receptivity
UE: I let go of any fear
UN: From every cell of my body
Chin: I welcome in new opportunities
CB: And new people
UA: From all directions
Liver: All walks of life
Wrist: All ages
TH: Into my life

EB: I never know who’s going to change my life
OE: My only job is feel good
UE: And welcome new relationships with a grateful heart
UN: Whether professional or personal
Chin: I remain alert and aware of new healthy potential partnerships
CB: I am always supported and guided to who to talk to
UA: I trust that life will lead me
Liver: And I keep myself open and in a state of gratitude
Wrist: The more gratitude I feel
TH: The easier it becomes! I’m so grateful. I’m so thankful.

Take a deep breath and repeat as necessary!

Feel free to print this out and keep it in your wallet for those times when you want to anchor in the feeling of gratitude. It’s a lifesaver when you need a quick shift.

Before you go, I have to ask – how did that feel? Did you notice a shift in your energy? Let us know in the comments section! We love hearing from you and your feedback helps us create more content you love.